After my last post about the Incredibles’ incredible romance, http://animatingyourlife.com/2013/02/05/the-incredibles-incredible-romance/
I can’t stop thinking about the mix of strength and flexibility that Mr. Incredible and Elastigirl struggle with and eventually attain. I’ve realized that this is an area I need to work on. I’m on Elastigirl’s side on this one. I’ve always prided myself on my ability to adapt, to change, to stretch and be flexible, yesterday I realized that I have done this at the expense of inner strength. I think about the number of times I’ve buckled and caved to pressures to be what I wasn’t or do what I knew wasn’t true to who and what I am. The results have never been good, not for me and not for the people I was bending for. We can only be effective or helpful when we’re being true to who we are, our principles, what we know to be true.
A couple of posts ago I wrote about an impending conflict and how Finding Nemo helped me face that conflict with integrity,
I realize today, that it was also a huge movement for me in terms of finding and claiming my own inner strength. I didn’t twist myself out of shape to avoid the truth. When I do that (and I have for a great deal of my life) I’m lying. I know that’s harsh, but it’s true. Living an authentic life is about finding our strength and our flexibility, as long as we’re stubbornly maintaining one or the other, we are not complete people.
I am very flexible and I adapt well, that’s a strength and I’m not belittling or dismissing it, it has served me well and will continue to do so. I will work to be stronger, to be strong and flexible, they are not mutually exclusive, if Mr. Incredible and Elastigirl can do it, so can I.
Keep it real.
PS did I mention that Brad Bird is a genius?