I had a note from a student who will be graduating from college in a few weeks. Graduating and going out into the job field was getting a bit threatening.
I’ve been teaching at the college for 18 years, suddenly I’m having a flashback to 25 years ago, when I graduated from college. WOW a quarter century later. Have I learned anything?
For what it’s worth, here’s what I know about graduating:
1)Keep the people who matter close to you. It gets a little harder to stay connected after you graduate – do it anyway. Those people keep you motivated, supported, connected, grounded and sane.
2)Zoom in on your strengths. At school there’s a LOT of focus on fixing your weaknesses, STOP IT. Do what you do best. If Michelangelo had spent all his time trying to fix his crappy his social skills we wouldn’t have the Sistine Chapel or David, Florence would have had a frustrated artist with a fake smile on his face.
3)If you’re not sure what your strengths are– that’s cool, we’re all still sorting that out, but here are a few tips:
Ask the people around you; we have a tendency to dismiss our strengths because the things we’re really good at are easy.
The next time you’re asking yourself “Why can’t they just get this, it’s so easy?” PAY ATTENTION…that’s a unique strength of yours.
4)All change is good and bad. You decide what you focus on.
5)You’ve heard that success means sacrifice – it’s true, but NEVER sacrifice your integrity, your dreams, or your authentic self. Giving up on those serves NO ONE! Trust me on this one.
6)You and your dreams are going to change a LOT in the next few years. Learn the difference between changing your dreams and giving up on them. One is about growth, the other is death.
7)Never stop learning. The best learning is accidental. We were NOT your best teachers. I like to think we were good, but Life and your own intuition will teach you FAR more than we ever could.
8)You’re not entering “The Real World”. School is real, what you have here is real. You’re just moving into a different place.
9)In the end, don’t listen to me – trust yourself.