These are my kids – taken by my good friend, and awesome photographer, Tracey Nolan http://misstraceynolan.com/
Lily, the oldest was adopted from China, Zara from South Africa.
We had just come back from South Africa with Zara when Lily came home from school saying that she’d met her friend Elisabeth’s little sister “And they look EXACTLY the same”.
The adoptive parent in me went into panic mode…”if I don’t deal with this correctly, her self-esteem and sense of family connection will be lost forever. The next few moments will direct her life toward happiness or a life of drugs and gang involvement” (OK so I was a little jet lagged). I gently took her in my arms, and explained that some siblings look alike and others don’t, but they’re all still family.
She said “you mean the way Zara and I look alike.”
Take a second and look at the picture again.
When I asked her why she thought she looked like her sister Zara she looked at me like I was out of my mind and said, “Because we both have the same colour hair and eyes”.
This kid should be working for the United Nations.
I love this story not only because my kid is so awesome, but because it reminds me that we find what we look for.
If we’re looking for things to separate us, we will find them.
If we’re looking for things to draw us together, we will find them.
If we’re looking for reasons to be miserable, we will find them.
If we’re looking for reasons to be happy, we will find them.
If we’re looking for situations to help us grow into the people we were created to be, we will find them.
What are you looking for?
Check out my post about the flip side of the equation…we don’t find what we’re not looking for.